Speak with wisdom instead. Speaking the truth without considering the circumstances, the environment, the people around you can be detrimental to yourself and to the task you are out to accomplish. In fact, it may be outright childish.
Even when you speak the truth, use wisdom and consider the heats of your listeners. Sometimes the truth may be too harsh or even repulsive to the ears of the people listening to you.
When the king asked Nehemiah about his sadness, Nehemiah chose his words carefully. He could have mentioned the nation of Israel, the temple of their God Yahweh, and the palace of their king. But he didn’t. He knew those words would mean rebuilding and establishing another kingdom that could become a potential threat in the future.
Instead, Nehemiah used wisdom with his words.
“But I said to the king, ‘May the king live forever! Why should my face not look sad when the city where my fathers are buried lies in ruins, and its gates have been destroyed by fire? (Neh 2:3)
It sounds personal and less offensive to say “the city where my fathers are buried.” That was the the truth. Those were words used with wisdom.
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